Ushers have an important role at a wedding. They help to make sure that everyone finds their seats when they arrive before the service begins; they can escort women as a matter of courtesy, and they make sure that the right people are sitting in the right places.

But does this mean you should have ushers at your wedding?

As always it is merely a matter of personal choice. If you want a traditional wedding where everything is as it should be and nothing is left out, then ushers should certainly be included. But there is no reason why you shouldn’t dispense with them if you would prefer not to have them.

There are many reasons why couples choose not to have ushers. If neither partner has a large family; or they have simply opted to have a small wedding, then the role of an usher might be somewhat redundant. There would certainly be no need for an usher if you only have around twenty people attending for example.

It becomes rather a different matter if the wedding is going to be a huge one. If you have a couple of hundred people or more attending then ushers will certainly come in handy. Not everyone will know where they are supposed to be sitting, and the more people there are milling around trying to find their seats the more confusing it can get. In this situation the presence of an usher will lead to a far smoother event. This is true when it comes to making sure everyone leaves in an orderly fashion, as well as arriving and sitting in the right places.

Of course if you do decide to have ushers and you have more than one, you should consider whether or not to have a head usher. This is quite common and it can be a good idea if you have chosen several people for this role. This is because there is always the chance that every usher will try and take charge if you don’t already have someone appointed for that role. The head usher will help to make sure that everything that needs doing is done, and all the ushers take on their roles in the proper manner.

If you do decide to have ushers their main role will be to ensure the service goes smoothly so far as the guests are concerned. After the service is over the role of the usher is over too, although they can be called upon to help out if needed at the celebrations afterwards.

The other important point to remember is to focus on who you will choose to be an usher. You need to choose people who are well suited to the role, and of course it is a role that is traditionally taken on by a man as well. Whatever you do make sure you select people who will take the role seriously and do you proud on the day. This is, after all, what an usher is there for.


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