The popular image when we think of a bride on her wedding day is one of a long white wedding dress, a train... and high heels being worn beneath it. But does this mean you should be wearing high heels yourself?

In truth it depends on a number of factors. To begin with if you want to follow the traditional line you should be a bit shorter than your husband to be. If he happens to be about the same height as you, wearing high heels might make him feel a bit self conscious. On the other hand he may be delighted to see you wearing them, so make sure you consult him and make the decision together if need be. Just ensure he doesn’t see you in them until the big day!

In addition to this you need to consider your own habits. Do you usually wear high heels? If you do then it probably won’t faze you to wear them all day. But if you don’t wear them very often you will find that your feet start to ache very quickly indeed.

Now just imagine wearing your very first pair of heels on your wedding day. Do you think you could focus on your wedding and what you need to say to the man you are about to marry when your feet are hurting? And more to the point, could you walk down the aisle with them on?

Many women who aren’t used to heels will find their feet will very quickly become sore and painful. You are supposed to be able to enjoy walking down the aisle – and it won’t be possible to do that if you are worrying about your feet.

In addition you may be so worried about tripping or falling over that you aren’t focusing on the important things – such as the fact that you are about to get married! The general rule then should be that if you aren’t used to wearing them, don’t feel that you have to start on your wedding day.

You can still wear nice shoes without the need to wear heels. You could choose a very small heel to wear that has a large base to it, minimising the chance of a stumble. Alternatively simply buy a pair of flat shoes that will go nicely with your wedding dress. No one will notice your feet or wonder why you aren’t wearing heels, so there is really no need to be too self conscious about it.

In truth even a pair of new flat wedding shoes could hurt before you have broken them in. Wear them round the house a bit beforehand to make sure you don’t damage them, but they have a chance to mould to your feet.

And if all else fails and you are wearing a dress long enough to cover whatever you put on your feet, you could opt for a pair of soft shoes or trainers. Some women have got married in trainers and even their husband didn’t know until after the ceremony!

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